I am taking part in a coaching program led by renowned coach and author Michael Bungay Stanier, who is best known for helping leaders become better coaches and helping people achieve worthwhile goals.
I love his self-affirming words.
You are amazing and doing well.
Now tell yourself this.
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We need to be reminded of this. Every single day.
Still, it’s normal to feel drained, demoralized, and fatigued at work.
Even the best jobs can sometimes feel like trail running, where you trip over roots, get caught on fallen trees, or fall in the mud.
It would be great if your boss told you “you’re amazing” on a regular basis. I hope they do, but expecting it is not a strategy.
You need to take matters into your own hands. Go beyond affirmation (which is important) and actually Become familiar and feel Here it is.
Today I’m sharing with you 11 tools to help you feel better. wonderful and wonderful.
Pick the tools that feel right for you and ignore the rest.
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Sometimes I prepare for the worst
It’s inevitable. You’ll have bad days. Be prepared for that. There are so many things you can’t control: other people’s demands, fires to put out, and chaos you didn’t cause.
You may have had a bad day. It was because your energy was low. Your best professional self didn’t show up as usual. No one can consistently give 100% five days a week.
It’s okay. Recognize the things that are out of your control. Be kind to yourself. Allow it to happen.
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Practicing curiosity with others
You will feel disappointed, angry, or unheard by the people around you. They too have their own bad things and events in their lives that have nothing to do with your relationship.
Having empathy and curiosity about others improves relationships.
It also insulates you from what you interpret as negative experiences that could ruin your day or week (see #4).
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Searching for energy sources
Some jobs energize you, others drain your battery. Some jobs will invigorate you, while others will make you feel like you’re rolling a boulder up a hill.
I’ve learned over the years that energy management is more important than time management.
Where do you recharge? Work, people, environments, activities? Go to places that create energy. And whenever possible, minimize the things that drain your battery.
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Beware the temptation of the dark side
The substance will seep into your mind, the question is how long you will let it stay there.
In Barbara Fredrickson’s wonderful book PositiveShe had a negative experience Weighing Rather than something positive.
You might be having a great conversation at work, getting a lot done, enjoying a delicious lunch outside in the sun, and looking forward to the latest episode of your favorite show, but it only takes a three-second interaction with a rude person at the supermarket or a poorly worded email from someone to ruin your day.
These little things can wipe out all the other good things that happen during your day unless you recognize and practice positivity. The secret is to have a 3:1 ratio of positive to negative. See numbers 3, 5, and 6.
Similarly, psychologist Phil Stutt’s concept mazeis a valuable tool. The maze is the place to go when you feel like you’re the victim of injustice. The trick is a) to recognize that you’re in a maze and b) to get out of it as quickly as possible.
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Celebrate even the small victories
…Satisfied Clients
…the project was accomplished
…an idea you generated
…Improved Process
…team members who guided problem solving
Recognize and celebrate the good work you have done and the positive impact you have had on others.
Even better, write it down for future reference (BoldCareer’s Core Practices).
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Practice Gratitude
Gratitude has amazing effects on our minds and bodies, especially when we dig deeper beyond the obvious (health, family, etc.).
What are you grateful for at work? I like to do this exercise as part of my journal or as a 30-second mental exercise before I go to bed.
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Don’t compare. Model.
It would be unreasonable for a novice marathon runner to be discouraged when they see the finishing times of elite runners.
A surefire way to get down is to compare ourselves to people who are far ahead of us on our path. Be kinder to yourself.
I had to re-learn this lesson recently when I compared the level of comments and feedback on my own blog and found myself disheartened. LinkedIn Post To those with greater influence in this field.
Pick a model who is a few steps ahead of you. What can you learn and model from them?
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Don’t take a job, be a traveller on your career journey
There are downsides to being too attached to one job.
Your professional identity can become overly tied to success and long-term tenure in a single role (or organization).
The problem is that when jobs or organisations change, people may settle for less than they deserve and end up overstretched.
As humans, you too go through cycles of novelty, learning, mastery, and boredom in your work. Unless there is a major change in your role (increased responsibilities, learning, etc.), want Periods of boredom can lead to stagnation, which is not a good thing.
Viewing your working life as a career journey gives you the perspective to take action when and where you need to – so you get more out of your work than just getting by.
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Owns you
The good news is, you have your own recipe for success at work.
The secret to your success may already be set in stone or it may be in development depending on where you are in your journey. Either way, it’s there. your The secret to success is to seek career coaching to find it.
In the midst of all the pressure and everything you have to do to perform, don’t lose sight of yourself and your worth.
Celebrate it. Follow your path of growth. And be happy with who you are.
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Smooth out the jagged edges
Do you want to become even more amazing and great?
Get guidance to help you figure out where the thorns keep getting stuck.
…What inspires you?
…What’s standing in your way?
…Where do you get in trouble?
… What mindset can you adopt to be a better leader, colleague, and person?
Adopt a continuous improvement mindset: observe, identify, improve.
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Shape your career story
The quality of your work has a huge impact on the quality of your life. Negative thing.
You need to follow tool #8 and own it.
If your work is constantly making you feel bad and not doing well, something needs to change, especially if it’s affecting your personal life.
That something is taking control of your career journey. Here are five steps to taking control of your career success.
Levels 1 and 2 are the foundation and your track record and other professional assets are Stepping stone For future progress and options.
At Level 3, options and opportunities arise both inside and outside your current organization. You can’t build a great career on merit alone.
Equally important is Level 4, where you manage your cycles, respond to change, and make optimal decisions that improve your career and quality of life.
Living your best professional self is Level 5. It’s where you feel successful and fulfilled. It’s where you unlock your potential. We’ve listed these as steps, but Level 5 is both a destination and a way of life along the journey.
If you haven’t already, I encourage you to try out some of these tools. The path to performing great and feeling your best at work is to schedule and prioritize time for your professional self. Recharge your batteries off the court. live The rest of your life!
You are amazing. You are doing so well.
Let’s climb the pyramid together.
Ian (I’m great and I’m doing great) Christy
